It's like your worst dream coming true moms, isn't it ?
When you are on diet, you expect to loose weight, But even when you are eating you dont expect to gain wait, because it doesn't happen quickly, that's why we keep eating....
Now, when you are pregnant , it starts to show on you really quick, even if you don't eat as much. And it's amazing! It's very shocking , and painful , even if everybody is telling you how great you look (as pregnant) you still feel a little shame, and you may even get judged for gaining all this weight , ya!!!!! Maybe you are not doing exactly what you should be doing, all the good eating , and the excersice , but still you Are pregnant, not the right time to be judged, specially that you already feel bad yourself. So, first reason to make you feel bad about your weight is PEOPLE.
So you look at yourself in the mirror and you feel like killing this woman who is standing in front of you, I remember I was thinking one time when I was looking at myself in the mirror ,,,, so that how I would look like if Im not watching my calories! The worst thought ever , my biggest fears in front of my eyes, I'm not exaggerating, even if you are not a mom, being a woman, you will always be aware of your body and this whole loosing weight issue must have taken many days and nights out of your life..... Yes , even if you still fat, yes people even if she is still fat, she still suffer , trying to diet and do it the best way she can.
It's amazing , how this superficial issue can exhaust half of the human race and serve the other half really well !!!
It's not like I don't love being thin, but sometimes we do need a break .... A break with no guilt.
Maybe you have a supportive husband or friends, maybe you accept yourself the way you are , maybe you do love yourself , maybe you are doing great in your job and life and everything that anybody could dream about.... BUT
Media, society, and discrimination will find the way to sabotage your mind, you will always think of yourself as a number on the scale. Even if you are the most successful woman on this planet. If you are overweight. The second reason is PEOPLE's judgment.
So, it's either you accept your body and love it , and face the world with it , or accept your body and love it and start dieting. Seriously, there is no third option,harsh? Ya! because this burden needs to disappear as soon as it can be done.
I know sometimes it's hard, you have a lot to do, and you really appreciate yourself for who you really are , not for being overweight or under it, sometimes you keep weight as a way of showing objection, and refusing, that you can keep all the weight you want and everybody can say whatever they want to say, you are keeping your extra kilos and let the world collapse .... You don't care, only that you care. So PEOPLE again
But I know you are hurting inside, I'm not incourging you to live it any other person's way, I know you want to loose the weight, so just start doing it, it's that easiest way, and once you start you will love it, you will feel great and you will want to do .
If you can't , its ok... Take your time or even don't do it at all, be the chubby sweet girl, but be happy, if you are happy it will show on you on your kids and family , even if you are a 100 on a scale , for me ,and for many I hope, all I care about is how you are doing in your life, real
life doesn't treat you nicer if you are thinner, so enjoy all the extra kilos, always remember that you gain them for a very good reason...Having Laila or Salma or Omar or Faris whatever your Baby name is.
Please don't ignore the fact that you are doing great in your life and stop enjoying playing with your kids or sleeping with your husband, or wearing expensive clothes because you think you don't deserve it, it's not the shape of your body or how much you are on the scale that decide if you deserve living or not, actually nothing can determine that , even if you are a total looser.
Forget how dealing with this issue is handled in our society, do it your way , enjoy your way, if you think that food makes you happy, go for it, I love seeing a girl totally confident about her food....it refreshing and cute. It's not neccesserly a problem, maybe you are a joyful person who loves food, just like any joyful person would love to exercise , love yourself because of all this weight not inspite of it, maybe you are who you are because you are not thin enough, you will never know how it served you, so think of it. Maybe being overweight has really served you and made you who you really are now.
Plus I only met few guys who think being skinny is sexy or very attractive, most of guys like it full and round :) it's only we girls dream of skinny waists and thinner thighs !
Give your life to a bigger, fuller something, stop giving weight the leading role in your life and start living.
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Monday, March 21, 2011
Happy you day!!
For every mother in this vast world.....
To you who chose to stay home with your kid/kids because it doesn't make sense for you to leave them to someone else to take care of them.
To you , working hard all day and come back to take good care of them , wishing for the day when you can wake up with them and never leave to work.
To you , who doesn't matter to you who's right or wrong , you do it your way with your kids , and take all the criticism in the world for it, but you put your foot down and Did it your way.
To you who stopped taking care of yourself so you can provide a better care for your kids.
To you who stopped smoking around your kids because it's not working anymore .
To you who stopped shopping at the pricy shops so you can buy unnecessary things for the kids.
To you who left your mom, family ,and friends, living in another country , thinking a better future for them deserve it.
To me.... I'm the girl who always thought that achieving has a different standard, it was the silliest thing for me to become a home staying mom, I thought of it as giving up , becoming comfortable and lazy as you have the perfect excuse not to pursue your dreams , and what you need to do to be an achiever in this life. To the new me that found a whole new meaning in raising kids and decided that achieving and success standard if not with your kids it's not anywhere else, I don't lie to myself anymore because being a mom in this complicated world
is a challenge.
To Dina , with the two babies and the kid :) you are appreciated , your friends always talks nicely about you, how great you are , how much work your are doing to raise your kids, YOU ARE APPRECIATED, you are a great mom but you don't know it.
To Sama , you found yourself in teema , I never saw you as confident or happy as when you talk about raising babies. You have information about raising and babies more than an encyclopedia ! I thank you for that, and I think you are one of the greatest mom I ever seen.
To Rahme.... You! The diva :) most beautiful and stylish girl I've ever met, you still as beautiful and stylish, you are a mom, a happy one , you have changed, more down to earth, a better person..... A great mom who is using everything to be a better mom, always asking and want to know stuff about your baby and what to do, I can see the passion in your eyes.... The perfect mom , prom queen , stylish diva! I
To Seba, the coolest, the craziest! You are most fit as a mom, it looks like it's the perfect job for you. The best thing about you as a mom that you do what you really believe it's right, you are confident just like the old days , in a better area .
To Sasha , so tender so loving, I envy the sweet boy you have, because he has it all, with you he is a winner no doubt! From love to toys to
food I'm sure he is getting the best of it all, the giver that you have always been has served him perfectly ..... It's obvious that you are working hard so he will work less.
To yasmeen...what can I say about you, you always wanted to be a mother, your are natural! I think you were born to be a mother..... And you sure know a lot of stuff about motherhood, enjoy it, it's your world.
To Kate , the tough mom, every time you looked or talked to one of the girls I saw love, you the tough girl! I was always amazed how your eyes will transform to mom code or something.... What I really envy the girls for is the good talks they had and will have with you, the perfect person to raise girls, you know it all.
To Basma.... I was so young when I met you , so do you :p I saw the cool stylish girl in you, and I saw you becoming this caring mom, who could raise the girls in an almost freeTV life with a lot of effort to boost their creativity, you have almost teach them everything about handcrafting and painting , swimming and gymnastics, reading, they are almost geniuses , because of you, and you took my very first attention on being a great mother as a young woman.
To MAMA.... No cleches today mama , I have had some bad times with you as every girl do, we doesn't have so much in common , we are very different, your way of caring and raising is different I know, you see everything from your perspective , you have made some major mistakes..... But guess what mom, I always turn out to you, because you get me, and you heal my wound with your special way, you are different , and maybe that what I love about you, you made me your friend, maybe that's why I am who I am today , and for that I thank you, and I greatly love you.
I thank every woman I mentioned because I learned something from her and become a better mom, I have known you enough, so I tracked the changes in your lifes , things you will never do if it's not for your kids, families, and love.....
You , I know you must relate to one of them, you must see yourself in one of these special moms I mentioned, whoever you are , you are doing great , feel the appreciation today , it's another reason to celebrate the life you choose.
And to you.... Every girl who is trying to be a mom, I say take your time :) .....
Seriously I hope Allah will give you as much babies as you want, use the time to get ready....
And to moms to be, you are going to be busy, crazy, pissed, happy, nagged, you are going to cry, to be deprived from sleeping, disattached from your life, but you are going to love it .
Happy you day mothers.... Happy mothers day You..
To you who chose to stay home with your kid/kids because it doesn't make sense for you to leave them to someone else to take care of them.
To you , working hard all day and come back to take good care of them , wishing for the day when you can wake up with them and never leave to work.
To you , who doesn't matter to you who's right or wrong , you do it your way with your kids , and take all the criticism in the world for it, but you put your foot down and Did it your way.
To you who stopped taking care of yourself so you can provide a better care for your kids.
To you who stopped smoking around your kids because it's not working anymore .
To you who stopped shopping at the pricy shops so you can buy unnecessary things for the kids.
To you who left your mom, family ,and friends, living in another country , thinking a better future for them deserve it.
To me.... I'm the girl who always thought that achieving has a different standard, it was the silliest thing for me to become a home staying mom, I thought of it as giving up , becoming comfortable and lazy as you have the perfect excuse not to pursue your dreams , and what you need to do to be an achiever in this life. To the new me that found a whole new meaning in raising kids and decided that achieving and success standard if not with your kids it's not anywhere else, I don't lie to myself anymore because being a mom in this complicated world
is a challenge.
To Dina , with the two babies and the kid :) you are appreciated , your friends always talks nicely about you, how great you are , how much work your are doing to raise your kids, YOU ARE APPRECIATED, you are a great mom but you don't know it.
To Sama , you found yourself in teema , I never saw you as confident or happy as when you talk about raising babies. You have information about raising and babies more than an encyclopedia ! I thank you for that, and I think you are one of the greatest mom I ever seen.
To Rahme.... You! The diva :) most beautiful and stylish girl I've ever met, you still as beautiful and stylish, you are a mom, a happy one , you have changed, more down to earth, a better person..... A great mom who is using everything to be a better mom, always asking and want to know stuff about your baby and what to do, I can see the passion in your eyes.... The perfect mom , prom queen , stylish diva! I
To Seba, the coolest, the craziest! You are most fit as a mom, it looks like it's the perfect job for you. The best thing about you as a mom that you do what you really believe it's right, you are confident just like the old days , in a better area .
To Sasha , so tender so loving, I envy the sweet boy you have, because he has it all, with you he is a winner no doubt! From love to toys to
food I'm sure he is getting the best of it all, the giver that you have always been has served him perfectly ..... It's obvious that you are working hard so he will work less.
To yasmeen...what can I say about you, you always wanted to be a mother, your are natural! I think you were born to be a mother..... And you sure know a lot of stuff about motherhood, enjoy it, it's your world.
To Kate , the tough mom, every time you looked or talked to one of the girls I saw love, you the tough girl! I was always amazed how your eyes will transform to mom code or something.... What I really envy the girls for is the good talks they had and will have with you, the perfect person to raise girls, you know it all.
To Basma.... I was so young when I met you , so do you :p I saw the cool stylish girl in you, and I saw you becoming this caring mom, who could raise the girls in an almost freeTV life with a lot of effort to boost their creativity, you have almost teach them everything about handcrafting and painting , swimming and gymnastics, reading, they are almost geniuses , because of you, and you took my very first attention on being a great mother as a young woman.
To MAMA.... No cleches today mama , I have had some bad times with you as every girl do, we doesn't have so much in common , we are very different, your way of caring and raising is different I know, you see everything from your perspective , you have made some major mistakes..... But guess what mom, I always turn out to you, because you get me, and you heal my wound with your special way, you are different , and maybe that what I love about you, you made me your friend, maybe that's why I am who I am today , and for that I thank you, and I greatly love you.
I thank every woman I mentioned because I learned something from her and become a better mom, I have known you enough, so I tracked the changes in your lifes , things you will never do if it's not for your kids, families, and love.....
You , I know you must relate to one of them, you must see yourself in one of these special moms I mentioned, whoever you are , you are doing great , feel the appreciation today , it's another reason to celebrate the life you choose.
And to you.... Every girl who is trying to be a mom, I say take your time :) .....
Seriously I hope Allah will give you as much babies as you want, use the time to get ready....
And to moms to be, you are going to be busy, crazy, pissed, happy, nagged, you are going to cry, to be deprived from sleeping, disattached from your life, but you are going to love it .
Happy you day mothers.... Happy mothers day You..
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