Who you're really are?

You need to have enough faith in yourself while raising your children for two reasons;

First, then you can raise them to become genuine, real and confident , I know that being yourself these days is a real challenge for you as a mom and for your kids as well, because they are growing up in a crowded world, they need to be pure enough so they can see clearly what they want and what they like or hate, the more effort you put in raising them as original as they can be will serve you very well when they are all grown up, or that what I hope for .

Second, so you can keep your own original self and continue what you started, maybe 10 years ago , you will do it again, when they will need you less, because sooner or later they will need you less, you must keep that in your mind and keep dreaming about your future, you don't want them to grow up and watch you regret the years you spent on raising them and not pursuing your own life.

You must be focused all the time or you will loose yourself in life, you can't get any busier raising kids, which recuire you to be the most of yourself, if you still don't know what you really want , or where you find yourself , start searching, don't search for what 99% of people are searching for, start from inside, start from high school, what really fascinated you all your life, what you were passionate about all these years, is it fashion? Art? Food? Money? Music?
Forget your major, forget the stereo type you have about yourself, you probably got it from others, unleash the fantasy about yourself and go for it, it may take years to get it right, it may never become as perfect as the fantasy in your mind, but at least ,you will be spending your precious time in something you really want, that you really enjoy

Perfect life will be , waking up everyday wanting to go to work, make your dream your work, shoot for the stars, even if you miss, at least you reached the sky. What the worst that can happen, not achieving your dream?? You are not ayway, why don't you try?

You Are afraid right? Maybe you are making good money at the moment, maybe you have enough money and you are settled, you are thinking, everything now is in the right place , why would I want to mess that up? Even if you decided to try, my spouse will be shocked and reluctant about what I really want, or maybe im afraid of judging?

Forget about all that, mess your life up, turn it upside down, and pursue your dream.
Don't focus on achieving sucsses , or reaching goals or any aspect of competing culture that is controlling us.
Focus on the trip, on the road, how satisfying it's going to be, how happy you are going to be. And as we agreed, you are the most important member of your family, if you are satisfy and happy , everybody will be, no matter what the reason is, people will be wondering , what in the world is giving you all that inner peace and satisfaction, I guess no one will be asking what you achieved in material world.
Look around you, people always are seeking happiness no matter how rich or poor they are, no matter if they are a bunch of CEO's or home staying moms, it's our nature, we seek happy and satisfied people no matter who they are according to materialistic definitions .

As you grow up you start seeing this, why do you think people retire and THEN, start buying their dream cars and travel to their dream
destinations, take art classes, cooking classes?? because they realize they spent thier lives pursuing the common dream, not their own.
We humanbeings never learn anything from other humans mistakes or lives, we want to try it ourselves , then regret on it by ourselves.

I'm addressing this especially for women,and more specially for moms, as I think of men as creatures on a quest by nature, they love achieving by the known standards I guess because of the testosterone and their tough natural..... And if you are doing the same, where is your special delicate nature as a woman?
If he is in a quest, and you are on a quest, your kids will be on a quest themselves for finding themselves and the doomed journey will never end.

Life, in it's shape now has squeezed every single one of us by our choice, there's no better time to reverse the spill and do it the way you want it to be done.

Feel special, breathe special, talk special, ignore the exhausting standards , that you sometimes don't know why you want to reach them.

I beg you to live your dream, this, and only this , will improve the quality of our life.